Sometimes there isn’t enough help available, or it isn’t easily accessible. It may feel like it occasionally but it isn’t your fault. It seems to be the ultimate test of mettle, to tell yourself that it isn’t because you weren’t there, that they’re doing this. Thankfully, she has stopped and has become remarkably much stronger person. She knew that I would do what I could if she wanted it. I knew it would be a bad idea to pander her but I didn’t have to. I felt slightly relieved that she felt that we were good enough friends to share something this personal. My blissful ignorance evaporated in the space of about four seconds. We all reacted differently and from what I gather, I reacted the worst. One of my friends felt terrible, which led to her telling us what was going on. Feeling helpless, I began to question my ability as a friend. Yet the only way they seem to be able to find that relief is through inflicting physical damage to themselves. Seeing someone act like there is nothing wrong in front of their oblivious friends is heart breaking, when you may know that on the inside, that person is screaming for some kind of relief. But having been a close friend to a few people who have been through it, I can say that it is an awful thing to experience. I can’t speak from personal experience with self-harm, only having been close.
In fact, in France, where I used to live, to my dismay the government does not even reimburse patients who need to see a Psychologist, unless it was for obesity related problems, which I find grossly unfair. there was no mention of mental health and self-harming, which is just as important to be aware of at that age, particularly considering the figure above. I certainly remember when I was in secondary school, amongst all the talks about drugs, sexual health etc. On doing a quick Google search whilst writing, I noticed the first page of results, did not show a single page with a reference to the NHS. after they come out and smelling the stench of bile, when you know that they aren’t sick at all.Īs far as I know, self-harm doesn’t get very much press. People tend to forget, that the sufferer is scared, so you may only find out about their self-harm by chance by seeing a scar or burn in an odd place, or even going into a W.C. But often knowing people that think there is no help around can be as bad, in my opinion. Thankfully, I’ve been on the other side of it. It’s haunting almost, how much someone can dislike themselves, or be that tempted to remind themselves that they are still alive. When a person gets to a point where they don’t believe there is solution, other than self-harming, it’s a very scary time for them. Quite frankly, self-harm is an alarming reality. Yet, self-harm has a stigma attached to it and many people go on with their lives without even knowing how much of a problem self-harm is in our society.
That’s not a figure many of us will have seen advertised before. Figures released last November show that up to one in twelve young people self harm. The frightening thing about self-harm, is that more of us have been close to it then we would like to admit.
In Features this week, Ben Cole explains the reality of self-harm in today’s society.
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